How I Find meaning: The ultimate adventure.

G’day my friends and welcome to another week and another blog! I hope you all are enjoying this crazy weather at the moment! It is blowing a gale and raining cats and dogs in my town which means no horse riding!! The christening of the helmet will just have to wait one more week… meh i will live….. I think…

However, i am not here to talk about why i am sad about missing riding. I want to chat about a little something called Life’s meaning. Have you ever stopped and thought if your life has meaning or how you shaped your life? a bit soppy on my part? yeah but hear me out!

Meaning: How did I find it?

I believe everyone on earth is here for a reason, and everything happens for a reason.

I love going against the grain and doing the unexpected and living outside of the box! Who doesn’t though right?!

Like we all do, I went through a period in life where it wasn’t all sunshine and daisies. It was like I turned into the Grinch’s more self loathing sister! I wanted to know why I had been dealt the disability card. It wasn’t until I had a spiritual awakening of sorts and went down a seriously dark mental road that it all clicked! It was almost like someone had dunked my head in a bin of ice cold water!

I realised that there was a meaning to my disability, and every single high and low.

Lets face it, if we didn’t uncover the hidden meaning in life’s most trying times or use them to our advantage what was the purpose of going through it? All the dark moments for me really kick-started that little voice in my head I like to call ‘Sherlock’. He likes to do all the background work and discover a purpose in every little event in my life…. Yes it gets tiring listening to him because he won’t shut up!

ANYWAY, as for my disability, the purpose was there from the beginning. I have learnt and experienced so much. If it wasn’t for my disability, I honestly don’t think I would have done my law degree, spoken at work conferences, or even started this blog! Who knows what I would have done!

My meaning in life is still unfolding. For now though, my meaning is simple. I feel my purpose is all about educating people to embrace disabilities and know they deserve to do so much more than sit on the couch and watch the day go by. Do I know just how life will unfold or how I will educate people? I like to think I am trying on the second part of that question. I don’t know where it will take me, but I know my meaning in life has started because of the most amazing and heartbreaking moments that I will cherish forever.

How do you find meaning?

How do you find meaning you may ask? Hmmm I don’t know I am not no psychic! But what I can tell you is to go back and go through your life with a fine tooth comb. Chances are there is something there that will kickstart you into finding your meaning.

If you didn’t have meaning in your life, you wouldn’t have what you have now! Simple. Your meaning may be in a career, family, marriage, a diagnosis or that awesome single life! People who are superhuman use their upheavals to their advantage! They know how to play an epic game of Poker and Chess at the same time! They find their purpose in the things that were meant to crush them like a peanut. Trust me with a little soul searching you can too!

Just because you are ‘disabled’ ‘queer’ ‘gay’ ‘too old’ ‘too young’ ‘a widow’ ‘single’, doesn’t mean that your life has no meaning. It does. You just need to go looking for it. Your life shouldn’t be defined by a label, or circumstance! It is there for you to breakthrough or embrace, to find a brand new chapter full of possibilities!

So many people assume incorrectly about you. Wouldn’t it be nice the prove them and yourself wrong? Don’t sit on something that you wanted to do forever! Life is too short for that! Take a leap of faith and give things a go! Isn’t life meant to be a game of unexpected surprises?

You have been put here for a purpose! isn’t it time you went searching to find it?? Like Forrest Gump said; ‘Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get’.

-Rhi xo.